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10 things that kill marriage, which couples need to avoid.

Marriage is a formerly or legally recognised union of a man and a woman. It can also be called matrimony or wedlock, it is the bedrock of the society. It is a union of two matured people, who have mutual understanding.

 

 

The rate of divorce today is alarming. Most times you would wonder, if these are the same people who loved themselves. It is surprising how two persons who once loved themselves, we develop so much hatred on each other that the only language they understand is DIVORCE.

There are some elements that couples need not to allow in their marriage, or must remove, for their marriage to be sweet. Importantly, it is not the duty of one person to make a marriage work, the two parties will have to be selfless, for their marriage to be enjoyable.

Here are some elements that couples should do away with:

1. Laziness: This is one of the elements that kills marriage. Both parties must accept their responsibilities and live to them. A man must know what his duties are, likewise the woman. Laziness in marriage can result to lack of money in the house, and money is one of the vital things that makes marriage interesting.

2. Suspicion or Lack of Trust: Marriage should be between two persons who understand themselves. No need going into a marriage with someone without building trust with your partner. It can result in excess suspicion, this may result hatred, and may at last kill the marriage.

3. Lack of Mutual Respect: People should learn how to draw boundaries. Learn when you are being wicked and selfish towards your spouse. The man should respect his wife, as man, you don’t need to be rigid, but flexible. Know when your wife is weak, know when you are suppressing her. The woman should also learn to respect the husband. Respect each others feelings, who brings in money, or who builds the house, doesn’t matter.

4. Lack of forgiveness: Husband and Wife should understand that they are two separate entities, and must learn to forgive. Any marriage without misunderstanding is fake. Is either one if the persons involved is faking his or her life. When people become real, there must be misunderstanding. But in all, spouse should learn to forgive, remember the love both of you shared initially.

5. Keeping Secret or Lack of Openness: Keeping secret or lack of openness to your spouse kills marriage. As man, let your wife know your movements, businesses and commitments, the same thing goes to the wife. When you are passing through emotional problems, let your spouse know, that is why you both got married.

6. Lies: Always tell each other the truth.

7. Lack of enjoyable sex: Don’t starve your partner sex. It lead to cheating and then result in divorce. Sex is sweetest ingredient that makes marriage enjoyable, it bonds the people involved together.

8. Lack of communication: You can be in marriage without communicating with your spouse. Don’t say that you don’t like too much talk, when your spouse is a parrot, you should have known before getting married to each other. Don’t be blinded with love to the extent that you marry someone who doesn’t understand your type of person.

9. Do not be too close to your family than you are, to your wife.

10. Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage.

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