Why I haven’t quarrelled with my wife after 15 years of Marriage – Alfred Okoligwe
A friend once asked me , ” Fredo , What is the secret behind your happy married life?”
I replied, “You should share responsibilities with due love, and respect for each other. Then absolutely there will be no problems.”
He asked, “Can you explain?”
I said, “In my house, I take decisions on bigger issues whereas my wife decides on smaller issues. We do not interfere in each other’s decisions.”
Still not convinced, he asked me to give him some examples.
I said, “Smaller issues like how many kids to have, the neighbourhood to live, which car we should buy, how much money to save, who, when and where to visit, which sofa, cooker, refrigerator to buy, monthly expenses, whether to keep a maid or not, where to go for holidays, whose mum we should visit, the church to attend , the type of clothes to buy for children, etc, etc, are all decided by my wife. And I just agree to it.”
He then asked, “So then what is your role?”
I said, “My decisions are only for very big issues. Like whether America should attack Iran, whether we should support supreme court decision in Imo state and follow hope Uzodinma, whether Britain should re-colonize Nigeria again , how to fully exploit Nigeria economic and intellectual potential, whether Buhari and Atiku should retire from politics after 2023, , whether Arsenal FC needs to buy new players or change their coach to improve their play, whether Manchester United FC and Chelsea should change their coaches , whether kwara United should be playing their matches under floodlight, whether Amotekun should operate at state levels or regional levels etc.
My wife never objects to any of these decisions and we live happily!
So my male counsellors, sometimes u have to overlook so many issues for peace to reign in ur home.